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“I Take You”      Gen. 2:22-25; Mal. 2:13-15; Matt. 19-3-12       May 09, 2010


1.   “I Take You” In . . Recognition Of God’s Way. Gen. 2:22-25

       A.   Recognition Of The Way God Made and . . Formed Eve. Gen. 2:22-23

       22 Then the Lord God made the rib He had taken from the man into a woman and brought her to the man.

       23 And the man said: This one, at last, is bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh; this one will be called

       woman, for she was taken from man.


       B.   Recognition Of The Way God Made The . . Flesh Of Eve. Gen.2:24-25

24 This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh.

       25 Both the man and his wife were naked, yet felt no shame. HCSB


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2:21-22 ribs. Though elsewhere the Hebrew word means "side," here it means "rib" (and doubtless includes the surrounding flesh, cf. v. 23).

2:23 Woman. Heb., ishshah, similar to ish (man), reflecting the fact that woman was derived from man (though the word itself may come from a root meaning "to be soft"). 2:24 This verse emphasizes the complete identification of the two personalities in marriage. The passage tells us that God instituted marriage and that it is to be monogamous, heterosexual, and the complete union of the two persons. Jesus added that it is to be permanent (cf. Mark 10:7-9).

2:25 They felt no shame until they sinned (3:7).

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Verse 23

Woman (Gen 2:23)

Hebrew °ishshah (OT:802), feminine of °iysh (OT:376), man. Literally, "womb-man" or "female-man", because she was taken out of man (1 Cor 11:3-12; 1 Tim 2:9-15). Woman is said not to have been taken out of man's head to be lorded over by him, nor from his feet to be trampled on by him, but from his side to be equal with him, from under his arm to be protected by him, and from near his heart to be loved by him.

Verse 24

a [Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.] Matt 19:5; Mark 10:7; 1 Cor 6:16; Eph 5:31.

Verse 25       [were not ashamed] Where there is no sin, there is no shame.

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2:21-23 God forms and equips men and women for various tasks, but all these tasks lead to the same goal—honoring God. Man gives life to woman; woman gives life to the world. Each role carries exclusive privileges; there is no room for thinking that one sex is superior to the other.

2:24 God gave marriage as a gift to Adam and Eve. They were created perfect for each other. Marriage was not just for convenience, nor was it brought about by any culture. It was instituted by God and has three basic aspects: (1) The man leaves his parents and, in a public act, promises himself to his wife; (2) the man and woman are joined together by taking responsibility for each other's welfare and by loving the mate above all others; (3) the two are united into one in the intimacy and commitment of sexual union that is reserved for marriage. Strong marriages include all three of these aspects.

2:25 Have you ever noticed how a little child can run naked through a room full of strangers without embarrassment? He is not aware of his nakedness, just as Adam and Eve were not embarrassed in their innocence. But after Adam and Eve sinned, shame and awkwardness followed, creating barriers between themselves and God. We often experience these same barriers in marriage. Ideally a husband and wife have no barriers, feeling no embarrassment in exposing themselves to each other or to God.

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2.   “I Take You” In . . Respect Of God’s Word. Mal. 2:13-15

       A.   Recognition Of The Word Of God and The Altar Of . . Tears . Mal. 2:13-14a

13 And this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, With weeping and

       crying; So He does not regard the offering anymore, Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands.

       14 Yet you say, "For what reason?" Because the Lord has been witness Between you and the wife of your

       youth, . . .”


       B.   Recognition Of The Word Of God and The . . Treacherous Actions . Mal. 2:14b-15

       “. . . With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your wife by covenant.

       15 But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring.

       Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. NKJV


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Malachi 2:13-15

2:13-15 Though distressed that God no longer accepted their offering, the people refused to face up to the seriousness of divorce. Some divorced wives had been married in their youth. All divorce breaks the covenant (promise) made at the time of marriage, and remarriage violates the pattern God established at creation when He made only one wife for Adam (v. 15). Or this may mean He made them one flesh in marriage.

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Verse 13

a [done again,] "Done again," proving that they had lived in hypocrisy before. They were acting like hypocrites, covering the altar of the Lord with tears, weeping and crying out. They had done this so often that the Lord would not regard their offerings anymore, or receive them with good will at their hand.

Verse 14

a [Wherefore? ...] Wherefore — why does he not accept our offerings? The reason given was that of men dealing treacherously with the wives of their youth, their companions by covenant.

Verse 15

a [did not he make one?] God made two persons out of one in the beginning — the man and his wife; and had He wanted more than one wife for man He would have created more at that time. The passage here expresses God's hatred of divorce — "putting away" (Mal 2:16). The Berkeley translation: "Any one with any intelligence does not act that way; for what did that one do, who was seeking offspring from God? So watch out for your feelings lest you be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. For I hate divorce" (Mal 2:15-16).

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and they wondered why God refused to accept their offerings and bless them (2:13)! We cannot successfully separate our dealings with God from the rest of our life. He must be Lord of all.

2:14 The people were complaining about their adverse circumstances when they had only themselves to blame. People often try to avoid guilt feelings by shifting the blame. But this doesn't solve the problem. When you face problems, look first at yourself. If you changed your attitude or behavior, would the problem be solved?

2:14, 15 Divorce in these times was practiced exclusively by men. They were disloyal to their wives and ignored the wedding vows they had made before God, thus corrupting his purpose for them to rear godly children who love the Lord. Not only were men unfaithful to their wives, but they also were ignoring the fact that this bonding relationship was an illustration of their union with God.

2:15, 16 "Guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth" means to have the same commitment to marriage that God has to his promises for his people. Our passion should be reserved exclusively for our spouse.

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3.   “I Take You” In . . Reverence To God’s Will.    Matt. 19-3-12

       A.   Recognition Of The Will Of God and The . . Permanence of Marriage . Matt. 19:3-6

       3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?" 4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made* them at the beginning 'made them male and female, 5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."


       B.   Recognition Of The Will Of God and The . . Permission Of Moses. Matt. 19:7-9

7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality,* and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."


       C.   Recognition Of The Will Of God and The . . Provision Of Certain Men. Matt. 19:10-12

10 His disciples said to Him, "If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry." 11 But He said to them, "All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: 12 For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother's womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it." NKJV

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19:3-12 John had been put in prison and killed, at least in part for his public opinions on marriage and divorce, so the Pharisees hoped to trap Jesus, too. They were trying to trick Jesus by having him choose sides in a theological controversy. Two schools of thought represented two opposing views of divorce. One group supported divorce for almost any reason. The other believed that divorce could be allowed only for marital unfaithfulness. This conflict hinged on how each group interpreted Deut 24:1-4. In his answer, however, Jesus focused on marriage rather than divorce. He pointed out that God intended marriage to be permanent and gave four reasons for the importance of marriage (19:4-6).

19:4-6 Today, many homosexuals want to commit to "marry" with the blessing of the church. Reasons for homosexual feelings and desires are complex and serious. Christians should not trivialize the situation or flippantly condemn the homosexual person. But Jesus made God's ideal very plain: At creation he approved one kind of marriage bond, man to woman. These become one flesh—one before God. See Rom 1:24-27 for further discussion.

Where does that leave homosexual marriage? At best, it is a human invention without any biblical precedent. God created man and woman. Heterosexual monogamy is God's plan for marriage—the best plan, the only one.

19:7, 8 This law is found in Deut 24:1-4. In Moses' day, as well as in Jesus' day, the practice of marriage fell far short of God's intention. The same is true today. Jesus said that Moses gave this law only because of the people's hard hearts—permanent marriage was God's intention. But because sinful human nature made divorce inevitable, Moses instituted some laws to help its victims. These were civil laws designed especially to protect the women who, in that culture, were quite vulnerable when living alone. Because of Moses' law, a man could no longer just throw his wife out—he had to write a formal letter of dismissal. This was a radical step toward civil rights, for it made men think twice about divorce. God designed marriage to be indissoluble. Instead of looking for reasons to leave each other, husbands and wives should concentrate on how to stay together (19:3-9).

19:10-12 Although divorce was relatively easy in Old Testament times (19:7), it is not what God originally intended. Couples should decide against divorce from the start and build their marriage on mutual commitment. There are also many good reasons for not marrying, one being to have more time to work for God's Kingdom. Don't assume that God wants everyone to marry. For many it may be better if they don't.

Be sure that you prayerfully seek God's will before you make the lifelong commitment of marriage.

19:12 A "eunuch" is an emasculated male—a man with no testicles. Jesus' point here is that some people have physical limitations that prevent their marrying, while others choose not to marry because, in their particular situation, they can serve God better as single people. Jesus was not teaching us to avoid marriage because it is inconvenient or takes away our freedom. That would be selfishness. A good reason to remain single is to use the time and freedom to serve God. Paul elaborates on this in 1 Cor 7.

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(Dake Annotated Reference Bible.) Verse 3

a [tempting him] Trying to ensnare Him (Matt 26:3, refs.).

b [Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?] Question 99. Next, Matt 19:5.

c [put away] Divorce (note, Matt 5:31).

d [every cause] This must be kept in mind in dealing with this question. The real issue here is divorce for "every cause," not divorce for fornication which was lawful (Deut 24:1-4). This was the great controversy among the Jews at this time (note, Mark 10:2). Rabbis had made void Deut 24:1-4. They now permitted divorce on many frivolous grounds, such as careless seasoning of food, causing the husband to eat food which had not been tithed, going into the street with loose or uncombed hair, spinning in the street, loud talk or constant talking in the home, the husband's finding one more beautiful than his wife and many other things.

Verse 4

a [Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?] Question 100. Next, Matt 19:7.

b [made them at the beginning made them male and female] Gen 1:26-28; 2:21-25. This settles the question of evolution.

Verse 6

a [joined together, let not man put asunder] Many today claim that all married people are not joined together by God, so they are free to marry the one God intended them to have. The fact is that God recognizes all legal marriages and will hold people responsible for their vows (Rom 13:1-10).

Verse 7

a [Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?] Question 101. Next, Matt 19:16. See note, Mark 10:4; and note, Matt 5:31.

Verse 8

a [hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives] Stating why Moses allowed divorce for fornication. Moses saw that if he did not permit divorce many women would suffer untold hardships from ungodly husbands.

b [but from the beginning it was not so] Christ defeated His enemies by answering them with Moses, not what Shammai or Hillel said on the question. Hardness of heart and divorce were not intended by God and they will not be in the eternal kingdom when Christ reigns over the natural generations forever (Gen 8:22; 9:12; Isa 59:20; Luke 1:32-33; Rev 11:15; 22:4-5; Dan 7:13-14).

Verse 9

a [Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery] Any man who divorces his wife for any cause except fornication commits adultery if he marries another. Any man marrying her that is divorced for her own fornication commits adultery. This was evidently an unpleasant answer to these scheming men who wished to be free to put away their wives for "every cause."

Seven Reasons Marriage is Indissoluble:

1.    By divine institution (Matt 19:4,6,8)                     2.    By express commandment (Matt 19:5-6)

3.    By the example of Adam and Eve (Matt 19:8) 

4.    Because marriage makes a man and a woman one in flesh, with complete union of interests, fortunes, desires, joys, sorrows, and a lifelong partnership (Matt 19:5-6)

5.    Because of the evils consequent to divorce for themselves, their children, and others who become entangled in sin by it (Matt 19:9; Mark 7:21; Rom 1:29-32)

6.    Because of the penalties involved by causing such evils (Matt 19:9; Gal 5:19-21; 1 Cor 6:9-11)

7.    Because there is no excuse under the gospel for "hardness of heart" against each other (2 Cor 5:17-18; Eph 4:24; Gal 5:24)

New Testament Exceptions to This Law:

1.    Fornication (Matt 19:9; 5:32). One can easily understand this in view of Prov 2:16-20; 6:24-26; 7:5-23; 9:13-18; 11:22; 30:20-23; etc.

2.    Willful desertion because of Christ and the gospel (1 Cor 7:12-15)

b [fornication] See notes, Matt 5:32.

c [put away doth commit adultery] Divorced for any reason except those allowed by Scripture (Matt 5:32; 1 Cor 7:12-15).

Verse 10

a [If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry] If one has to live with a wife with all the dissatisfaction and unhappiness, as in some cases, it is best not to marry.

Verse 11

a [All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given] This is not applicable to all men for some do not have wives as He further explained in Matt 19:12. Neither the single nor married state is condemned.

Verse 12

a [eunuchs] An emasculated man, usually one castrated before puberty.

Three Classes of Eunuchs:

1.    Those born impotent who are incapable of marriage (Matt 19:12; Deut 23:1)

2.    Those made eunuchs by men to be chamberlains and to care for harems and apartments of queens and princesses (Matt 19:12; 2 Kings 20:18; Jer 29:2; 34:19; 41:16; Isa 56:4; Acts 8:27-39)

3.    Those who make themselves eunuchs surgically for the sake of the kingdom of heaven (Matt 19:12)

b [able to receive it, let him receive it] Let the man who is capable of embracing this way of life receive it.

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19:3 for any reason at all? The rabbis were divided on what were legitimate grounds for divorce. The followers of Shammai held that a man could not divorce his wife unless he found her guilty of sexual immorality. The followers of Hillel were more lax, allowing divorce for many, including trivial, reasons.

19:4-5 Have you not read. See Gen 1:27; 2:23-24. Rather than aligning Himself with either rabbinical position, Jesus cites the purpose of God in creation that husband and wife should be one flesh—the oneness of kinship or fellowship with the body as the medium, causing marriage to be the deepest physical and spiritual unity.

19:8 permitted. Moses made a concession with regard to God's intention that marriage be lifelong and monogamous (Deut 24:1-4).

19:9 On various interpretations of immorality, see note on Matt 5:32.

19:10 it is better not to marry. The disciples seemed to have understood that Christ was teaching a very restricted meaning of "immorality" and that He completely disallowed divorce of married persons. See note on Matt 5:32. In turn, Christ acknowledges that the saying "it is better not to marry" is valid in some cases, and these are enumerated in verse 12—those congenitally incapable, those made incapable, and those who wish to devote themselves more completely to the service of God (1 Cor 7:7,8,26,32-35). Celibacy is an acceptable option. (Ryrie Study Bible.)