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Being Married     Eph. 5:22-33     Nov. 14, 2010


       I have never known a woman who knew she was married to a loving man who had trouble with submission. In my life; if I even thought my wife was not being submissive all I needed to do was to demonstrate my love for her and the question of submission went away. Husbands do you regularly speak and otherwise demonstrate your love for your wife? I believe you will not find a command in the Bible for a man to specifically submit to his wife. Neither do I believe you will find a command for a woman to love her husband. If that is correct, and I believe it is, why is it true? I have been told men have trouble loving anyone but themselves, and woman have trouble submitting. We need to affirm submission and love as very important ingredients of Being Married.

1.   Wives; Being Married; Follow The Lord’s . . Command. 5:22-24

A.   Follow The . . Message of Submission. 5:22 

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.

       B.   Follow The . . Modeling of Submission. 5:23-24

23 for the husband is head of the wife as also Christ is head of the church. He is the Savior of the body.

       24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

       Everything in the church needs to be submissive to Christ. Do you feel mistreated because the Bible teaches that? No, because Christ loves and demonstrates His love for the church. Well a wife does not feel degraded when she knows she is loved. The message of this command is simple and straight forward, “submit to your husband.” Have you observed a church that does not submit to Christ? They become very liberal and eventually die. Since they are not submissive to Christ they do not practice evangelism and ultimately become just a social club. Certainly that should teach a lesson concerning obedience.

2.   Husbands; Being Married Follow; The Lord’s . . Command. 5:25-30

       A.   Follow The . . Modeling Of The Command To Husbands. 5:25-27

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as also Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 to

make her holy, cleansing her in the washing of water by the word. 27 He did this to present the church

to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but holy and blameless.

       B.   Follow The . . Magnifying Of The Command To Husbands. 5:28-30

28 In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hates his own flesh, but provides and cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, 30 since we are members of His body.

       Men is it difficult for you to love someone besides yourself? I don’t think it is for me, but I am aware of my male ego and at times I have to keep it in check. The fact that Christ models love for us greatly helps. The man’s love for his wife is to be modeled from Christ’s love not what we think is proper or enough. How often does a wife like to hear the words, “I love you.” What ever a man thinks, it is more than that. A man is to love his wife like he loves his own body. The example is Christ’s love for His body, “the church.” If a man consistently demonstrates his love for his wife everyone will see a good example of what marriage ought to be.

3.   Husband and Wives; Being Married; Accept The . . Challenge. 5:31-33

       A.   The Challenge To Husband and Wife about Maturing In . . Oneness. 5:31

31 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,

and the two will become one flesh.

       B.   The Challenge To Husband and Wife about Maturing In . . Obedience. 5:32-33

32 This mystery is profound, but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 To sum up, each one of

       you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband. HCSB

       The longer a couple experience marriage the more they look and act like one. My wife and I sometimes start talking about the same thing. Oneness makes our likes and dislikes more similar and the things we enjoy become more alike than we thought possible. We still have individual likes and dislikes but not nearly as many as in earlier years. Our happiness depends much on how we please one another. The more we practice obedience to the Lord and His teaching the more that becomes true. If you see a family where the husband loves like the Lord commanded and the wife submits like the Lord instructed, children are usually very obedient. That kind of a family calls attention to itself and gives a fine testimony for all to see. It demonstrates how following the Lord makes a significant difference in a family. I think it shows the world what the Bible teaches and shows forth what the Lord meant about Being Married. Amen? Amen!