When Responding To Loss 2 Sa 1:17-19, 24-27; 2:1-7 Nov. 02, 2008
Today as part of my pastoral opportunities I met a man at a restaurant who walks with the pending death of his wife. She is dying a slow death. My wife and I love this couple. He responds as well as can be expected; but he faces a loss of his wife of over 50 years. The best advice I have heard When Responding To Loss, is just to be there.
1. When Responding To Loss . . Sing Words of Lamentation. 2 Sam. 1:17-19
A. Sing . . Personal Words Of Lamentation When Responding To Loss. 1:17
17 David sang the following lament for Saul and his son Jonathan,
B. Sing . . Particular Words Of Lamentation When Responding To Loss. 1:18-19
18 and he ordered that the Judahites be taught The Song of the Bow. It is written in the Book of
Jashar: 19 The splendor of Israel lies slain on your heights. How the mighty have fallen!
Evidently David played the harp very well; He played many times for the king. David needed the
consolation the harp and a personal song could bring. I believe songs and music bring forth feelings that words alone will not produce. Not only did David sing but he ordered others to sing a particular song of lamentation. The loss that David and Israel experienced must be seen with mixed emotions as Saul was not as good a king as David would become. But they still experienced loss.
2. When Responding To Loss . . Speak Words Of Lamentation. 2 Sam. 1:24-27
A. Request Others . . To Speak Words Of Lamentation When Responding To Loss. 2:24-26
24 Daughters of Israel, weep for Saul, who clothed you in scarlet, with luxurious things, who decked
your garments with gold ornaments. 25 How the mighty have fallen in the thick of battle! Jonathan lies
slain on your heights.
B. Respectfully . . Speak Words Of Lamentation When Responding To Loss. 2:24-26
26 I grieve for you, Jonathan my brother. You were such a friend to me. Your love for
me was more wonderful than the love of a woman for me. 27 How the mighty have fallen and the
weapons of war have perished!
David told the daughters of Israel to weep for their king. Since Saul clothed them with luxurious things
I believe they would also speak some kind things about him. Sharing words about a person who just died may be helpful. Not words of advice but expressions of kindness about the deceased. When my mother died I remember a lady telling me my mom was the best bible teacher she ever sat under. Those words meant a lot to me. David spoke respectful words about Jonathan. He was a friend David loved. To make his expressions of respect and love sympathetic with a homosexual lifestyle shows great disrespect for Jonathan and David. Did you know homosexual lifestyle is strongly condemned in the Old Testament? David and Jonathan were just very close friends.
3. When Responding To Loss . . Seek Wisdom From The Lord. 2 Sam. 2:1-7
A. Seek Wisdom Concerning Your Place Of . . Residence. 2:1-2
1 Some time later, David inquired of the Lord: "Should I go to one of the towns of Judah?"
The Lord answered him, "Go." Then David asked, "Where should I go?" "To Hebron," the Lord replied.
2 So David went there with his two wives, Ahinoam the Jezreelite and Abigail, the widow of Nabal the Carmelite.
B. Seek Wisdom Concerning Your Place Of . . Renown. 2:3-4a
3 In addition, David brought the men who were with him, each one with his household, and they settled
in the towns near Hebron. 4 Then the men of Judah came, and there they anointed David king over the
house of Judah.
When responding to a loss do you need additional wisdom? Of course! Where does one get wisdom? Obviously it comes from the Lord; so David sought wisdom from the Lord about his residence. The Lord told him to move and the specific town to which he should move. Did God know David would be anointed king by the people of Judah? Yes! He knew the people were going to give David a place of renown in the house of Judah. When you are suffering, seek God’s wisdom for all matters of your life.
4. When Responding To Loss . . Share Expressions of Appreciation. 2:4b-7
A. Share Expressions Of Appreciation Through Words Of . . Acknowledgment. 2:4b -5
“. . . They told David: "It was the men of Jabesh-gilead who buried Saul." 5 David sent messengers to
the men of Jabesh-gilead and said to them, "The Lord bless you, because you have shown this special kindness to Saul your lord when you buried him.
B. Share Expressions Of Appreciation Through Words Of . . Approval. 2:6-7
6 Now, may the Lord show special kindness and faithfulness to you, and I will also show the same
goodness to you because you have done this deed. 7 Therefore, be strong and courageous, for though Saul your lord is dead, the house of Judah has anointed me king over them." HCSB
Because their king died the loss David faced affected many other people. Proper and helpful acts were done by several, and David acknowledged these acts. No doubt these people appreciated his remarks. The approval David gave encouraged the people to be strong and courageous. All of this helped David When Responding To Loss. Amen? Amen!