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I Pledge You My Faithfulness    Mat. 5:27-30; Pro. 5:15-21; Pro. 6:25-32    May 23, 2010


Introduction

       Unfaithfulness usually devastates a marriage. Sometimes the relationship can be mended and continue, but too often the relationship is greatly hindered from being a healthy marriage once again. Sexual relationships are meaningful in marriage but too much emphasis is focused on sex by the world. I know a young man who several years ago refused to kiss the girl he was dating and I asked him why. He told me, “I don’t know if I love her, and you could fall in love with the devil if you kissed him enough. That young man has enjoyed a very fruitful marriage with a different lady.


          

1.   Avoid Mental Adultery. Mat. 5:27-30  

27 "You have heard that it was said to those of old,* 'You shall not commit adultery.'* 28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

29 If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. NKJV


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5:28 The lustful desire in one's heart can lead to the sinful act.

5:29-30 This is strong language, used to emphasize the comparison; i.e., sin is so dangerous, because it leads to eternal condemnation, that it would be better to lose hands or eyes temporarily than to lose life eternally.

5:32 except for the reason of unchastity. See 19:3-9; Mark 10:

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5:27, 28 The Old Testament law said that it is wrong for a person to have sex with someone other than his or her spouse (Ex 20:14). But Jesus said that the desire to have sex with someone other than your spouse is mental adultery and thus sin. Jesus emphasized that if the act is wrong, then so is the intention. To be faithful to your spouse with your body but not your mind is to break the trust so vital to a strong marriage. Jesus is condemning not natural interest in the opposite sex or even healthy sexual desire but the deliberate and repeated filling of one's mind with fantasies that would be evil if acted out.

5:27, 28 Some think that if lustful thoughts are sin, why shouldn't a person go ahead and do the lustful actions, too? Acting out sinful desires is harmful in several ways: (1) It causes people to excuse sin rather than to stop sinning; (2) it destroys marriages; (3) it is deliberate rebellion against God's Word; (4) it always hurts someone else in addition to the sinner. Sinful actions are more dangerous than sinful desires, and that is why desires should not be acted out. Nevertheless, sinful desires are just as damaging to obedience. Left unchecked, wrong desires will result in wrong actions and turn people away from God.

5:29, 30 When Jesus said to get rid of your hand or your eye, he was speaking figuratively. He didn't mean literally to gouge out your eye, because even a blind person can lust. But if that were the only choice, it would be better to go into heaven with one eye or hand than to go to hell with two. We sometimes tolerate sins in our life that, left unchecked, could eventually destroy us. It is better to experience the pain of removal (getting rid of a bad habit or something we treasure, for instance) than to allow the sin to bring judgment and condemnation. Examine your life for anything that causes you to sin, and take every necessary action to remove it.

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Verse 28

a [looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart] With continual longing with the mind made up to commit the act if at all possible (James 1:13-16). It becomes a state of the heart and is as deadly as the act itself (1 Sam 16:7; Mark 7:19-23).

Verse 29

a [offend thee] To cause a moral fall and loss of the soul by some means.

b [pluck it out] Nothing is gained by changing the literal meaning.

c [it is pofitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell] Giving the reason why one should get rid of the offending member. Would it not be more profitable to do this literally than to have all members cast into eternal hell? Jesus is simply emphasizing the terribleness of eternal hell. There is a better method than this provided by the gospel. If one will become a new creature in Christ by the new birth this problem of sinful members will be solved (2 Cor 5:17-18; Gal 5:16-26; Rom 6:16-23; 8:1-13; 1 John 1:7; 2:29; 3:6-10; 5:1-5,18). See Matt 18:8-9, notes.

d [whole body should be cast into hell] Used twice of the whole body going to hell (Matt 5:29-30; 10:28; note, Luke 12:5; Rev 20:11-15).

Verse 30

a [hell] Used three times here (Matt 5:22,29-30; 18:8-9; Mark 9:43-48; Isa 66:24).

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2.   Find Fulfillment In Your Spouse. Pro. 5:15-21

15 Drink water from your own cistern, And running water from your own well.

16 Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets?

17 Let them be only your own, And not for strangers with you.

18 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth.

19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love.

20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress?

21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord , And He ponders all his paths. NKJV


(Ryrie Study Bible.)

5:15 The figurative language here refers to marital intercourse. The main point is to find contentment with your lawful wife.

5:16 The idea is, should you beget children by an adulteress, a woman of the street? springs. A reference to one's children.

5:18-19 The wise teacher presents a healthy view of sex. His counsel is to enjoy the delight of God-given sex only in marriage.

5:19-20 doe. Gazelle.

5:21 paths. Lit., wagon tracks; i.e., habits.

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5:15 "Drink water from your own well" is a picture of faithfulness in marriage. It means to enjoy the spouse God has given you. In desert lands, water is precious, and a well is a family's most important possession. In Old Testament times, it was considered a crime to steal water from someone else's well, just as it was a crime to have intercourse with another person's spouse. In both cases, the offender endangers the health and security of family.



5:15-21 In contrast to much of what we read, see, and hear today, this passage urges couples to look to each other for lifelong satisfaction and companionship. Many temptations entice husbands and wives to leave when marriage becomes dull in order to find excitement and pleasures elsewhere. But God designed marriage and sanctified it, and only within this covenant relationship can we find real love and fulfillment. Don't let God's best for you be wasted on the illusion of greener pastures somewhere else. Instead, rejoice with your spouse as you give yourselves to God and to each other.


5:18-20 God never intended marriage to become boring, lifeless, and dull. Sex is a gift God gives to married people for their mutual enjoyment. Real happiness comes when we decide to find pleasure in the spouse God has given us and to commit ourselves to meeting his or her needs. The real danger is in doubting that God knows and cares for us. We then may resent his timing and carelessly pursue sexual pleasure without his blessing.


5:19 See Song of Songs, chapter 4, for parallels to this frank expression of the joys of sexual pleasure in marriage.

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Verse 15

a [Drink waters out of thine own cistern] One must be satisfied with his own companion and his children must not be illegitimate (Prov 5:15-18).


Verse 18

a [Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth] Let your own wife be blessed, and besatisfied with her at all times (Prov 5:19).


Verse 20

a [And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?] Question 3. Next, Prov 6:9.


Verse 21

a [ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings] The ways of man are before God and He records every word and deed. How deeds are recorded is unknown, but every idle word and every cup of cold water given or refused will be brought up before man in the day of judgment (Matt 10:42; 12:37-38).

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3.   Recognize What Is At Stake. Pro. 6:25-32

25 Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, Nor let her allure you with her eyelids.

26 For by means of a harlot A man is reduced to a crust of bread; And an adulteress* will prey upon his precious life.

27 Can a man take fire to his bosom, And his clothes not be burned?

28 Can one walk on hot coals, And his feet not be seared?

29 So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; Whoever touches her shall not be innocent.

30 People do not despise a thief If he steals to satisfy himself when he is starving. NKJV



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6:20-35 The theme of this section is the seventh commandment: "You shall not commit adultery" (Ex 20:14).

6:25 Do not desire. The first step into adultery (Matt 5:28). catch. I.e., captivate.

6:27-29 It is impossible to engage in this sin without suffering the consequences.

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Verse 25

a [eyelids] Modern makeup or lipstick was unknown in the East, but they did line the eyes with a preparation of antimony to give them luster.


Verse 26

a [piece of bread] Here it seems that a man is brought to poverty by a prostitute, but in the Septuagint, Vulgate, Syriac, and Arabic versions it reads, "For the value of a harlot is as much as of one loaf." There were so many prostitutes in the land that they hired themselves out for a bare living.


Verse 27

a [Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent] Questions 6-7. Next, Prov 8:1.


Verse 29

a [So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent] Just as a man cannot take fire into his bosom or walk on hot coals without being burned, so he that seduces his neighbor's wife shall not go unpunished (Prov 6:27-29).


Verse 30

a [despise] Hebrew: buwz (OT:936), to disrespect; utterly despise; consider insignificant. People will not think it insignificant for a thief to steal when he is hungry.

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( Life Application Study Bible.)

6:25 Regard lust as a warning sign of danger ahead. When you notice that you are attracted to a person of the opposite sex or preoccupied with thoughts of him or her, your desires may lead you to sin. Ask God to help you change your desires before you are drawn into sin.


6:25-35 Some people argue that it is all right to break God's law against sexual sin if nobody gets hurt. In truth, somebody always gets hurt. In the case of adultery, spouses are devastated and children are scarred. Even if the partners escape disease and unwanted pregnancy, they may lose their ability to fulfill commitments, to feel sexual desire, to trust, and to be entirely open with another person. God's laws are not arbitrary. They do not forbid good, clean fun; rather, they warn us against destroying ourselves through unwise actions or running ahead of God's timetable.

( Life Application Study Bible.)